>> I don't need the chat room list, login or admin stuff... nor do I want a user to access them

 

You need to integrate Cute Chat with your own application. And let Cute Chat uses your user system to detect the current user.

 

 

 

>>Is the global.asax file in my application or your?  Which global.asax file are we talking about?

 

Yours if you have one.

 

>>Also,  I do not want to users to select a avatar.  I would like the avatar to indicate a male or female image which I have stored in a a session var (gender).  How can I accomplish this.

 

This is not easy to achieve.  It's better to do this after you finish the integration work.